Focusing Your Writing

August 20, 2011

Hello, Blogger World. It’s been awhile. I hope you’ll forgive me. I needed time to think about some things, like: What is it that I want my blog to accomplish? What things am I really passionate about? Do I want to be a writer?

Imagine me sitting with a rose, peeling off petals.

  • I write
  • I write not
  • I write
  • I write not
  • I write

During my time off, I have set new personal goals for me and the hubs. I’ve been on vacation in the lovely Orange Beach, AL. I’ve been busy with my professional commitments. I’ve been happy go lucky. I’ve been down in the dumps. I’ve lost family on my husband’s side. I’ve met new people and joined a local book club.

I think I’ve done just about everything except clean my house…

And this is what I think that means: I am a writer!

But I’ve also decided that maybe I’m not the writer that people expect. I don’t really want to write fiction – at least not at this point in my life. I can look at someone on the train and make up a story about them in a heartbeat (it’s the Southern in me), but I don’t feel passionate about writing those stories down.

Instead, I feel like I am a non-fiction writer through and through. I want to serve others. I want to offer something that will improve someone’s life. When I look back on my life, I realize every job I’ve had – whether I realized it or not – was providing a service in some way. It was meant to improve someone else’s life.

One minor exception: retail. But who hasn’t done a stint in retail?

So, I’m going to focus my writing. I have some ideas up my sleeve; literally, they’re written on my arm (just kidding, Mom). So stay tuned. This writer’s life is just beginning.

How do you focus your writing?


A Time to Sell

July 19, 2011

Have you ever tried to sell something that you absolutely loved? It’s bittersweet really. My townhouse in Alabama is on the market and has been for quite some time. I love that house. It was my home. The cozy 2 bedroom, 2 bath place served me well for the years I spent in it. My master bedroom was enormous – at least to me – with room for a king size bed if I had wanted. I had it set up with a queen size bed with a sleek black comforter, white shams, and zebra print blanket. I had a walk-in closet full of clothes, shoes, and bags that puts my current 1920s bungalow-sized closet to shame (no offense, Hubs). The attached bath and linen closet provided more than enough room for my super soft pink towels and bath salts. And that was just bedroom 1!

From the minute I walked in, the whole house knocked my socks off. It was deceptively large, had a decent sized yard, and was in an extremely safe area. I was in love.

The problem?

Then, I fell in love.

With my husband.

In Chicago.

I had to leave my perfect home!

And it was worth it.

But now, it’s still on the market in Alabama, and it’s time to sell.

Everyone has been talking about how tough the market is right now. I’ve heard it compared to the market during the Great Depression. It’s sad really because low prices should make it a buyer’s market…so why aren’t people buying?

I don’t have the answer to that.

But since it’s time to sell, my husband, realtor, and I (we’re quite the team) have developed a sales plan for the place, and we’re looking for other ideas!

What strategies have you used to sell a house in this market?

What words of advice do you have to offer?

Say a prayer and spread the word – It’s Time to Sell!

Find the house here.

The Story of You

January 17, 2011

This is the story of one of my readers. Feel free to leave words of encouragement in the reply section. I hope you learn something about yourself by reading the story of someone else.

Her Background

Age:  73
Gender:  Female
Marital Status:  Married
Children: Yes

Her Story

  1. What did you want to be at age 5?
    I didn’t think about what I wanted to be when I grew up when I was just 5 years old. I was too busy in the pecking order with my two brothers, one older and one younger.
  2. What did you want to be at age 15?
    When I was 15 years old, I thought I wanted to be a nurse. It sounded like a noble profession. There weren’t many career choices for young women back in my day. I might have realized that dream and been a good nurse, but by the time I was 18 years old, I had my first child.
  3. What did you become?
    I became a wife and mother of two young sons by the time I was 20 years old, and 6 years later my precious baby girl was born.
  4. What has been your biggest disappointment in life?
    The biggest disappointment in my life has been not getting a college degree and having a career and my family. I had dreams just like everyone else but I made a mistake and didn’t get to pursue them.
    I don’t call it a disappointment but a tragedy that my beautiful daughter did not live to fulfill her dreams and aspirations.
  5. What was your biggest mistake to date?
    My biggest mistake was believing in someone’s lie and hoping I could fix things.
  6. What do you consider your biggest accomplishment?
    By far my biggest accomplishment is my three children. I have been blessed to watch my sons grow up to be strong, healthy, and successful adults with good careers and loving families.
  7. How do you define success?
    I define success as having a dream and pursuing that dream, but if that dream is not possible, then you make your own dreams come true by doing what makes you and those around you happy. You take what you have worked hard for all your life and appreciate it and all the people around you that make you happy in life. If you dwell on “what ifs” you will never be a happy person.
  8. Do you consider yourself successful?
    I do consider myself successful. I have many interests. I paint, scrapbook, garden. I love to read. I am the member of clubs and organizations, some that I have organized myself. I travel with my friends, and I am a preacher’s wife and enjoy that aspect of my life…
  9. What is the best advice you have ever been given?
    To tell you the truth, I have never been given much advice from anyone I can think of except maybe some of my school teachers and Sunday School teachers when I was growing up. I know I didn’t get much from my family members.
  10. If you could give your younger self advice, what would it be?
    I would tell a young me that I am a worthy person and can do anything that I decide that I want to do. I could be anything that I wanted to be.
  11. What is your biggest struggle?
    My biggest struggle is fighting depression and anxiety. I am by nature a person that feels like she is wound up too tight like a clock. I fight it everyday. I feel like I am waiting for the other shoe to drop at any moment.
  12. What makes you happy?
    What makes me happy is knowing that my sons and their children are all well and happy especially when I get a phone call from one of them checking up on me. I must confess that I don’t get enough of them.
  13. What makes you tick?
    What makes me tick is having projects. I love a project, to have a goal and work toward that goal to completion. It is a real good feeling to know you have accomplished something worthwhile. It doesn’t have to be something big every time.
  14. What do you want my readers to know about you or about life in general?
    I would like for your readers to know that I am just like they are. I may be 50 years older than some of them, but I still have dreams and plans for my life. Not to dream is to die. I still have unfinished projects and places to go and things to do. I just hope I have time to do them.